Update RecursiveArrayTools.jl compatibility to version 3 #10929

Job	Run time
tree_part1 - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 34s
tree_part2 - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 33s
tree_part3 - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 34s
tree_part4 - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 36s
tree_part5 - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 34s
tree_part6 - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 36s
structured - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 33s
p4est_part1 - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 34s
p4est_part2 - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 36s
t8code_part1 - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 33s
t8code_part2 - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 35s
unstructured_dgmulti - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 34s
parabolic - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 37s
paper_self_gravitating_gas_dynamics - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 34s
misc_part1 - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 35s
misc_part2 - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 35s
performance_specializations_part1 - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 34s
performance_specializations_part2 - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 35s
mpi - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 35s
threaded - ubuntu-latest - x64	3m 35s
threaded_legacy - ubuntu-latest - x64	20s
threaded_legacy - ubuntu-latest - x64	23s
mpi - macos-13 - x64	3m 38s
threaded - macos-latest - aarch64	3m 36s
mpi - windows-latest - x64	3m 33s
threaded - windows-latest - x64	3m 21s
finish	1s
	1h 26m 24s

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