Add cuda-related variants for Albany and Trilinos

[mcarlson801]

This PR adds variants to albany and trilinos-for-albany spack recipes to support CUDA builds.

A few notes about the included variants:

1. DFad Sacado types do not work on GPU so I've added an SLFad variant to Albany as an alternative that will work for all GPU cases.
2. CUDA Unified Virtual Memory (UVM) is off by default but can be enabled by adding +uvm
3. Same for Tpetra's GPU_AWARE_MPI (add +aware to enable)
4. Added +zen3 and +ampere80 architecture flags for Perlmutter-GPU

[mcarlson801]

@jewatkins @xylar

[xylar]

@mcarlson801, great, I'll test this tomorrow.

[jewatkins]

Note: this is needed for Albany tests but it might not be needed for mali/e3sm tests. in fact, I think one of the e3sm tests fails with this because of oom issues. sfad12 might be sufficient for all mali/e3sm tests.

[xylar]

@mcarlson801 and @jewatkins, please see my comments here: MPAS-Dev/compass#835 (comment)

[mcarlson801]

@xylar I think these are all the changes we need for a GPU build. Is there anything else we need to do before it can be merged?

[xylar]

I was able to build Trilinos and Albany with these changes on Perlmutter-GPU and run MALI with them, see:
MPAS-Dev/compass#835