give paid action retries from notifications more time for fallback QR

[huumn]

By default we still want a 1 second window for popping up a qr, but on retry notifications, we should extend it to at least 3-5 seconds - if not so long as they're still on the notifications page.

This might not be as necessary with our planned auto-retries, etc but as is there isn't an escape hatch/fallback for a slowly failing send wallet.