Source:
- https://pjrvs.com (the article itself is gone)
- polite version
- Everyone is offended all of the time.
- If someone is offended by you, that’s because they’ve noticed you.
- Not being noticed sucks more, but it’s a universal pain.
- People will judge you, regardless of what you do, because everyone’s “judgy.”
- Luckily, judgement & respect are different things
- Self-respect leads to others respecting you.
- Self-respect & entitlement are very, very different things.
- If you don’t have their respect, you don’t need them.
- You really only need the people who respect and value you.
- Confidence is achievable by the timid, introverted, or non-a-types.
- Don’t give fucks like fucks are going out of style.
- It’s okay to give a fuck about certain things.
- Not giving a fuck is the opposite of apathy.
- Greatness happens when you’re okay with being foolish/stupid.
- Everyone is awkward, weird, different.
- Refuse the boundaries of other people
- Be honest about who you are and who you aren’t.
- You can be honest without being a jerk.
- The less you expect, the more accomplished you’ll feel.
- Do things you think are important in life.
- Embarrass yourself in order to achieve something.
- Do something useful for world - "save the world".
- Ask yourself - what would you do if you had to leave house all day?
- Fail often – reminder.
- Act on opportunities.
- Judge people not by who they are, but by what they do.
- Do a lot of small things because there is no such thing like overnight success.
- The reason not every fantasy should be pursued is because fantasies never have negative repercussions. Reality does.
- When you reach all your dreams there will be nothing more to do. You will be miserable.
- You need to follow your dreams BUT love the process because the process matters.
- That's why so many movie stars are starting to take drugs etc.
- Also that's why so many movie directors after achieving everything they wanted are no loger able to do good movies.
- Fights are part of people lifes and we need to deal with that.
- You can't win if you don't play.
- I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.
- This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.
- How do you choose to suffer?
- Be aware of - “The neighbors got a new car, so now we feel like we need a new car.”
- You don’t have to prove anything to anybody, including yourself.
- We need to get pleasure of simple things we do every day.
- If you can’t find pleasure in the simple or the mundane, then you won’t find pleasure anywhere.
- 90% of your plans are going to fail no matter what you do. Get used to it.
- It’s not because we’re poor planners, it’s because there are simply too many unknowns.
- Plan the best you can, but then throw yourself into the fire.
- Leave yourself no option but to come out on top. It will be hard and nerve-wracking, but that’s how you grow.
- That’s how you squeeze all of juice out of life. Terrify yourself. Then laugh about it.
- “I feel as if no one wants to talk to me, but that feeling may very well be wrong. Let’s find out.”
- Emotions are useful. But they are our biological suggestions, not commandments.
- There is a difference between what we are capable of doing and what we allow ourselves to do.
- Everyone have two minds – the thinking one and the observing one. People have control only over the second one. So you need to observe what you are thinking because thinking is deluding you.
- Everytime you think „I'm angry” or „I hate him.” change it to „I feel anger” or „I feel hatred towards him.”. This kind of change gives you control over your emotions.
- Two most important things in dating/relationships are compatibility and chemistry.
- High compatibility between people comes from similarities in their lifestyles and values.
- Chemistry on the other hand, represents the emotional connection present when you’re with each other. High levels of chemistry usually come from opposite yet complementary qualities in people.
- There are three kinds of loves: lust, passion and commitment.
- Lust is the love that comes from our reptilian brain and it's about fucking.
- Passion is the love that involves emotions and natural chemistry between people. There cannot be Passion without first having the Lust, but after the Passion comes there is no need for love anymore.
- Commitment comes after 2-3 years of relationship and then people have connection in their brains that tells them the person they love is their own "self". Passion must exist for Commitment but later on, Commitment can exist without it.
- Body language studies claim that a person who breaks eye contact with you by looking down is intimidated (i.e., attracted) and a person who breaks eye contact by looking to the side is indifferent (i.e., not attracted).
- Level 3 is when someone looks at you and breaks eye contact as they normally do, but they hold the eye contact for a split second longer than is normal.
- Level 5 – The Gaze. This is a solid 2-3 seconds of eye contact without them breaking it.
- It’s so important to get in the habit of being able to hold eye contact, because otherwise you’ll miss out on all of the people giving you Level 3-5 eye contact. The gaze is a clear and large sign of interest.
- Vulnerability is the path of true human connection and becoming a truly attractive person.
- As Psychologist Robert Glover says: “Humans are attracted to each other’s rough edges.”
- Show your rough edges.
- Stop trying to be perfect.
- Expose yourself and share yourself without inhibition.
- Take the rejections and lumps and move on because you’re a bigger and stronger man.
- Everyone have their own stories that protect their own emotional interia.
- People tell themselves those stories to justify that internal resistance inside them.
- As you become more skillful (eg. your self-eseteem is going up) the inside stories change.
- What’s important is that you move things forward without hesitation.