Large memory allocation in getout after spill causes OOM

[FelixYBW]

Bug description

It's a mirror issue link to apache/incubator-gluten#8025

Two Gluten customers encounted the similar issue that when getoutput merge data from spill files, OOM reported.

I will keep this issue tracked.

@xiaoxmeng

System information

Velox System Info v0.0.2
Commit: 9cc05e4e27cc9295b68892785f6f2f058044090e
CMake Version: 3.28.3
System: Linux-5.4.0-1063-aws
Arch: x86_64
C++ Compiler: /usr/bin/c++
C++ Compiler Version: 11.4.0
C Compiler: /usr/bin/cc
C Compiler Version: 11.4.0
CMake Prefix Path: /usr/local;/usr;/;/usr/local/lib/python3.8/dist-packages/cmake/data;/usr/local;/usr/X11R6;/usr/pkg;/opt

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